Me and My relationships

Me and My relationships

Relationships are the main reason for life in the world. So, We value it most and care to keep it strong always. We the humans have a tendency to classify everything and doubt in every case. This may be because of our ability to think and to make decisions and we have classified human and other living things based on these two main characters, even though, I find that these two abilities are not only to human, but also other living things are able to think and make decision based on the data they are getting to analysis. But, I doubt why we the human have a different attitude while they classify everything and we have classified the things into good and bad. The same way we have classified the relationship into good relationship and bad relationship, similarly intimate relationship, close relationship, simply relationship. I feel it is a bond between two people but not an agreement between two people. It occurs based on mutual love and understanding. Psychologists can give more accurate definitions for these every human relationships and the good and bad is depend on the societies or different groups of people. I am not a psychologist and the things are my own, it may be right or wrong, which depends to you. If I quote from Bernard Russel , I never die for my belief because it may be wrong.

You may wonder why I am writing about relationships and love always in my blog, because I felt it every moment, Yes, Relationships and family life that I value the most in the world. I have grown in a very strong loving family set up. This family set up taught me the values of life and relationships, especially my mother. She taught me the first lessons of keeping relationships and Love. I see Heaven on the foot of my mother as prophet Mohammed (SAW) said. I would not have got these much confidence to face the troubles of life or the reality of life if I had not grown on the lap of my Mother. You know that I have a few very close friends as everybody has. When we say Close friend, we mean a mirror of us, don’t we?..or something there with that friend that we like the most, Which differ with persons and his feelings or his life experiences. I have seen a number of persons with loving heart and smiling face. I know that you have also got the same experiences, even though we keep closeness with someone who is very special to us, am I right?

I have seen a lot of loving hearts, I feel I am very lucky to have a sweet and loving heart otherwise I would not have got the same from the people whom I meet every time. I say my mother the same, that, “mam…everybody love me”, she just smile when she hear this, but my sisters say “mam..do you believe his lie…”….When I hear my sisters reply, I would not have anything to say but just smile as my mother did… because nothing there to express in spite of smile..That created all these closeness.

When my sisters doubted about my assertion on my relationship with other people, I had to explain a number of events and unforgettable persons who taught me good lessens on keeping relationship and love. I cannot forget the incident that a CRPF jawan (but I forgotten his name) who helped us to get a flat in Delhi when I have been there for my studies, when he did not know previous knowledge about us and we met him on a telephone booth. How I forget my guide and teacher shahin sir, who helped me a lot and that relationship started from a telephone call, Hari sir, who calls me every occasion and he was my teacher for physics for a year when I was doing graduation and we have not met after that.

The lessens I learned from Ilancheziyan sir, who taught me how to inspire students, the lesson from our lab sweeper that how to wish a person, the lesson from velusamy that when I was a customer to him, who taught me that, God is giving food and everything and we are doing business for the same thing, so customer is the source of our food and other needs, therefore customer is god or God is coming in the form of customer. My philosophy is same, that, we cannot live alone; other person or things are very much needed for us to fulfill our needs and dreams, so, whoever or whichever come to us that is God because I believe in the existence of God.

It is true that we may face trouble from other persons and because of the relationships also. About me, I feel that whatever comes to me, that is from God, these troubles are not to trouble me or to frustrate me at all, these are the gifts from God who helps me always to learn something from these troubles and problems. I feel success stands with the people who face God with smile, if I feel irritated when I face those frustrating things means I am irritated with the lessons thought by God. So I accept everything with a smiling face and happiness in my heart.

I never felt irritated when I faced financial problems to keep my studies and research, so God appeared me in front of me in many forms as my friends and my Guide. When disagreeing with another, my policy is that, we can disagree with people’s or country’s policies, but not with the persons or country, because we should understand the fact that people are different and their ideas also. We can oppose their ideas but not them. If we oppose people or reject people then we become cruel or inhuman, but if we disagree with other person’s idea while having a loving and sharing heart together or while respecting other persons rights, then the world will be a heaven. Respect other people as you respect yourself, love others as you love you, and agree others as you agree with yourself. You cannot be happy alone, because happiness is relative one and it depends on something.

But, I felt thwarted when I knew that I was a disappointment to my mother and father that I am a student still and not earning much even after 25 years old. It is true that I cared about my dream only but not my parents and I failed to convince them about my dream. Their dreams are simply getting married and settle in life with earnings. It is the thing happening in my village, many of them have gone to Middle East countries for a livelihood after high school and college degrees and majority of my age group have settled in their life. This may be frustrated my parents and they dream the same for me also. I don’t blame them because they are not educated much to know my dream goal. I respect them and love them and love to fulfill their dream very soon. I know that God is there, who is guided me all these years and he will guide me again.